A New Beginning
Posted on July 29, 2013
By Gary Jaffer
Welcome to the first of my blogs through the equilibrium9 website and also on our Facebook page and Google+. There may be some delay with Twitter. It seems I may be one of the few Twits who is still Tweaking his brain to the idea of Tweeting! Although blogging is just part of what we have in store. The plan is to get a few podcasts out and also to do the occasional video and webinar.
As many of you would recall there was a time when I had the opportunity to write on a regular basis for the Independent Weekly in the “Campaign Brief” section and in later times recording a weekly video segment for InDaily. Now it is personal and I look forward to hearing your comments and feedback about what is presented.
Each week I will comment on something that has sparked my attention in the business world, predominately in the area of performance development and leadership but not restricted to these areas. My passion for things philosophical will come up occasionally I’m sure, and I may even make a comment on the marketing advertising and media business as I keep in touch with happenings there.
The most important thing about whatever comes along in these pages will be your contribution. If you like something I’ve said let me know, likewise if you think I am talking nonsense, I’d like to know. If you disagree, put forward a case and if you would like to share any of the material, please feel free to do so, but don’t forget to credit the source!! Most of all enjoy and participate in the relationship.
In fact it was an idea around relationships that pinned my ears back this week. Just a small thing I read in some notes from an NLP course I have undertaken. Relationships are the cornerstone to any business interaction, regardless of whether they are internal or external. It is understandable that where there are the best relationships, and by best, I mean ones that are healthy robust and working well that you will see good business as a result. So I was delighted when I stumbled over these notes, as I must have missed the discussion around it at the time and found it quite an interesting take on something I have often spoken about.
There has always been a sense that if the problem is out there – with someone else – then I’m simply looking in the wrong direction. I’ve always felt I have needed to look back and see what is going on with me rather than point the finger out there at another. This way of thinking clearly positions a relationship as a dual entity equation – me and the other person. The idea that the relationship arises out of me and the other and thus creates a third entity is worthy of consideration. Instead of seeing flaws in other people we can accept that we are all whole and complete individuals but there may be issues with the relationship.
To successfully grow anything it needs nutrients and attention and if we can examine our various relationships (rather than the other person) we may find that the relationship is nutrient deficient. Thus we apply the necessary nutrients to the relationship and nurture its growth without blame or recriminations for those with whom we have relationships.